After Eliminating My Own Human Notions about Divorce, My Husband No Longer Threatened to Leave Me

By a practitioner in China

(Clearwisdom.net) My husband and I are a good match. Since I started cultivating in 1998, I have studied the Fa and practiced the exercises. At work I became very diligent and competent, and at home I took good care of my family. Every day I was busy taking our child to and from school, doing all the housework necessary and more, without complaining. My husband always praised Dafa at his workplace. He said that his wife had become very good tempered since she learned Falun Dafa.

After the Chinese Communist Party (CCP) started persecuting Falun Gong, my husband changed completely. Out of fear of the CCP, he used various methods to try to make me give up the practice. When all his methods failed, he then asked all my friends and relatives to put pressure on me. When that failed, he started cursing and beating me. Finally he threatened to divorce me. On top of these ordeals, the CCP sent people to ransack our home, and they took me to detention centers, forced labor camps and brainwashing centers. Our family was falling apart amidst the storms. All his relatives, friends and colleagues then tried to persuade him to divorce me.

At first, I agreed to the divorce and gave up everything that my husband wanted. I thought this was to let go of my attachment to human sentimentality. However, my husband did not divorce me, he was just threatening me, and he continued to always talk about divorce. Although my heart was not swayed, I always felt that the situation was not right. I knew that my husband was just throwing temper tantrums because I persisted in my belief. I tried explaining the truth about Falun Gong to him, but it did not work. Then I thought that maybe our predestined relationship had come to an end, so I agreed to a divorce. We divided our property and I wanted to take our child. He could not let go of our child, therefore he did not want a divorce in the end.

This kind of life was really miserable. During Fa study I constantly evaluated myself by asking what had gone wrong, and why had I been in this tribulation for so long? Because I was gradually elevating myself, everything started to change. My husband was changing too, although there was no fundamental change. He did not interfere with me doing the exercises and studying the Fa, because he could not do anything about it.

Clearwisdom published an article called "Human or Divine, One Notion Away." After I read it, I enlightened to certain issues. The fundamental reason for my long struggle during this tribulation had been that I always thought I was not capable enough. My will was weak when being faced with evil things. When I let go of my human notions, and really regarded myself as a cultivator on the road to godhood, things improved during my Fa study, and I started to gradually understand the deeper meanings of the Fa.

I had corrected my understanding on the issue of divorce. Divorce is a mutated human notion. I had to first let go of this bad notion within myself, and send forth righteous thoughts to cleanse myself. Then I communicated with my husband in my thoughts. I would not allow my husband to turn his back on Dafa, otherwise he was harming himself. Meanwhile, I sent forth righteous thoughts to cleanse the evil spirits and elements that were controlling and damaging my husband. Later, I realized that I should tell my husband that divorce is a degradation of human morality. It was a shameful thing and should not be mentioned casually. In the end, my husband actually turned toward goodness. He no longer mentioned divorce, and was willing to accept the truth about Falun Dafa. Not only did he no longer interfere with me when I was doing Dafa work, he actually provided me with some convenience. He also liked to tell me about his work. I gave him some good advice based on reasoning from the Fa. He accepted my suggestions whenever possible.

To all fellow practitioners who are still in various tribulations, please calm your heart, seriously evaluate yourself and find your incorrect notions or attachments. It might help improve your situation if you could change your notions, your point of view, or your way of doing things, or evaluate the situation from a new perspective. If you cannot understand the Fa, or if you cannot see the grandeur and all encompassing of Dafa, it must be because you are hindered by your human notions.

November 30, 2007

Chinese version available at http://www.minghui.org/mh/articles/2007/12/2/167495.html

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