(Clearwisdom.net) I have recently learned a lesson: it is easy to be attached to human emotions when clarifying the facts to family members. When driven by emotions we usually either argue from a competitive mentality, or explain with the pursuit of achieving something. The harder we try, the worse the effect. Our eagerness to explain is magnified if we see family members' misunderstandings. Sometimes we were the unintentional reason for family members to have a negative impression of Dafa.
My brother-in-law is a government official. To rise in the hierarchy, he paid lots of bribe money. He was deeply impacted by the "CCP culture" and clearly demonstrates the same inconsistency as the evil CCP. What he says and does publicly follows the CCP policies strictly, yet in private he is not at all happy with the CCP's corruption. His attitude toward Falun Gong is similar: though he knows clearly Falun Gong is not like what the CCP's propaganda portrays, yet he repeats the CCP's lies when talking about Falun Gong.
My sister is a Dafa practitioner. Each time I visited her after her release from a labor camp my brother-in -law complained about Falun Gong, and how the fact that my sister's Falun Gong practice brought disaster to their family. He spent all their savings on bribes to get an official position, yet he blamed Falun Gong for it, saying it cost all his money. Every time my wife and I explained the truth to him we could not keep calm and compassionate, and started arguing soon and left in anger.
Once when my wife and I were discussing this issue, we mentioned sending forth righteous thoughts. All of a sudden I had a realization: in addition to being unable to keep calm and patient, we used ordinary people's way to clarify the facts and ignored sending forth righteous thoughts. It was the factors behind him that controlled my relative and stopped him from learning the truth about Dafa.
Since then, after sending forth righteous thoughts at each hour, my wife, my sister and I extended the time by five more minutes, to eliminate the evil factors that controlled my brother-in-law.
A month later when we saw him, he had changed a lot and no longer said bad things about Falun Gong. During the Chinese New Year, my sister played a DVD of NTDTV's Gala for him. He cried when watching the programs. My sister took the opportunity to explain the truth to him for several days. He agreed to withdraw from the CCP and wrote a statement for it.
We must not use human notions when clarifying the truth to family members, nor let emotion and human feelings enter into it; rather, we should treat everything and everyone with righteous thoughts. We must send forth righteous thoughts to eliminate any evil factors behind them, and also utilize wisdom and reason and different ways to clarify the facts. This way we can truly offer our family members salvation.
