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The Changes in My Husband and Me
By a Falun Dafa practitioner in China
(Clearwisdom.net) I began practicing Falun Gong in 1996, and at the time
my husband was firmly against my practicing. However, all of my immediate family
members are practicing Falun Gong now. My experience is that if we believe in
Master and the Fa, then everything will be fine with Master's help.
We must firmly cultivate within Master's arrangements and our "xinxing"
and the environment will improve step by step. After I began practicing Falun Gong, all of my illnesses disappeared and I
was full of energy. However, I was disturbed that my husband did not support my
cultivation. I had to do all the housework before I studied the Fa and did the
exercises with my child outdoors. I thought this was a reflection of my level
and an opportunity to improve. Thus, I toiled on silently. However, I could not allow it when my husband disparaged Falun Dafa. I had
thought this opposition to Falun Gong was his thoughts at the time, but I forgot
that he was practicing other qigong and this would affect his
understanding. I told him to read Zhuan Falun several times,
and each time he said that he had already read it. In reality, he was interfered
with because of practicing other forms of qigong. Master talked about how
Master's law bodies did not enter a practitioner's home because of other qigong
books in the practitioner's home. Although I had been practicing for seven
years, due to my qing, I did not throw out these qigong
books, and those bad things were harming my husband and affecting me, as well. In the spring of 2005, I threw out all of those qigong books and sent
righteous thoughts to help him forget about those things. After that, he
listened to me when I clarified the truth about Falun Gong to him.
As a part of the Fa-rectification process, material production centers were
established all over China. I had established such a center as well, as my
husband worked out of town and came home only on the weekends. Before my husband
understood the facts about Falun Gong, I had to hide the printer on the
weekends, and I felt ashamed about doing this. I often felt regret for my husband because he had not understood the truth
because of the Chinese Communist Party's (CCP) slander against Falun Gong on
television. He believed that the messages behind the CCP's slander against Falun
Gong were his own thoughts. I told him all about Falun Gong, and about how my
parents and sisters also practiced Falun Gong, as well as other family members.
None of us gave up clarifying the truth about Falun Gong to him. Although
sometimes we were disappointed in him that we could not help him understand the
truth, we patiently and repeatedly clarified the truth to him. Recently, he quit
the Young Pioneers and the Communist Youth League. Afterwards, he also read Zhuan
Falun. He expressed regret that he did not listen to the truth earlier and
did not begin practicing Falun Gong until the summer of 2005. My husband had never done housework in the past. I am a Fa-rectification
period Falun Dafa disciple. With the exception of work, I believed that I should
take care of my child and do the three things as I should. My time
was tight everyday, but I did not ask him to do any housework when he was not a
practitioner. I felt that I should do the best I could because I am a Dafa
disciple. But, after he began practicing Falun Gong, I thought that he should do
some of the housework, too, and show how he thinks about others. I would
sometimes nag him about it. He took this as an opportunity to upgrade his xinxing
and was not angry at me, but he still did not do any housework. I was disturbed
by this for a long time. Sometimes, I would think, "Master had told us
about cooperating, so why can we not do it well?" My biggest problem was that I did not allow anyone to talk about my
shortcomings and I got angry any time someone did that. My husband told me
several times about this problem, and Master talks about this type of problem in
"Teaching the Fa in the City of Los Angeles." It was then that I
realized I should change. During this process, I realized that I had an incorrect thought in my
understanding. I needed to look inward and be thoughtful towards others, and
this was a different standard than that followed by ordinary people. These
requirements are there for every practitioner to correct him or herself, but we
should not demand things of others in this regard. After I realized this, I saw that I was upset about it, and I needed to look
inward. Why had I not looked inward to find my own problem? A practitioner's
mind should be peaceful and compassionate. When I realized these things, my husband became actively involved in
housework and we cooperated to do the three things well. In this process, both
of us have had many shortcomings, but I believe that we will correct our
problems soon. We should follow our path with Master's words to lead us back to
our original home.
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