(Clearwisdom.net) Ever since I started practicing Falun Dafa, I have had difficulty handling family tribulations. My husband didn't want me to practice the exercises, nor did he positively acknowledge Dafa. We had completely opposite views on the matter. Whenever I mentioned anything about Dafa, he would jump down my throat and even punch and kick me. He asked for a divorce at least 10 times. I experienced physical and mental fatigue and felt miserable. However, I didn't give up my belief in Dafa, even when my husband and I were as incompatible as oil and water.

I felt very heavy-hearted and filled with depression, grievances, resentment, and fear. I didn't want to touch him, and longed for quiet. On the other hand, I still felt affection for him. I had no choice but to sleep in a separate room. We were in a deadlock. I often heard him awaken from nightmares in the next room.

My husband was an all-round talented person. He had been working as a manager for many years. However, we work in the same place, so he was greatly affected when the Chinese Communist Party (CCP) started persecuting Falun Gong. At that time, pressure came at us from all sides. He suffered a lot.

When I was detained and imprisoned, my husband went everywhere to try to obtain an early release for me. He was forced to leave his job when the persecution started, so he has been accompanying me during the past 11 years. A talented and successful man was driven to stay at home all day. Just think, as a non-practitioner, how depressed he felt during those years. He had no outlet to release his anger, so he took it out on me. A warm and happy family totally changed. Our marriage drastically declined. We were reduced to attacks, complaints, and conflicts.

I knew I should be tolerant towards him because I was a Dafa practitioner. On most occasions I could control myself and not fight with him. Instead I persuaded him with patience and kindness. However, I couldn't be tolerant when he defamed Dafa and Teacher. I argued strongly with him, but he just couldn't accept the truth. In this environment, I felt extremely pained. Later, he went looking for women who could fill his emptiness. After I knew what he was doing, I couldn't bear it any more. We quarreled and fought, and our family was on the verge of collapse.

As a practitioner, I knew I had to improve myself. By constantly studying the Fa and looking inside, my realm improved and my capacity for tolerance increased. Gradually I felt compassion. I realized that ordinary people are living in delusion and pain, but they all came for Dafa. They set their hopes on Dafa saving them. This is especially true for our family members. Because of the persecution, they suffered miserable pain together with practitioners, so they should be saved! Whenever I had this thought, I really wanted to save my husband. But I didn't know how I could do it and this made me very worried.

Not long ago he met a woman and suffered a loss, which brought him more pain. He told me what happened. I was very calm, tolerant, and compassionate as I listened to his story. That night I opened my heart and shared my feelings with him. I admitted my shortcomings from the bottom of my heart, persuaded him to return to our family, and expressed my willingness to get along with him. On the following day we went for a walk and talked, and I tried to help him to stop worrying.

Our hearts came together and our relationship became harmonious. Most importantly, I enlightened to the fact that the old forces had created the deadlock between my husband and me over the past years. Their aim was to wear down my willpower through family tribulations, then destroy my opportunity to practice cultivation, and prevent my family from understanding the truth and be saved. After I realized this, I sent righteous thoughts intensively to eliminate the barriers that were created by the old forces; to disintegrate the evil demons, communist specter, and meddling deities that were manipulating my family members; and to eliminate all the evil beings and elements that interfered with my cultivation and prevented my family from understanding the truth and being saved.

Shortly after that, I felt a sudden pain in my side and abdomen. When my husband realized what was happening, he came to my side. At that moment I had one thought: I must save him. So I endured the pain and calmly told him the truth that I hadn't been able to say earlier. I said, "The world's people will be faced with calamities in the future. Just look how corrupt the world is today. Bad people are in power. Good people are being persecuted. Natural and man-made disasters are happening one after another. The CCP officials are corrupt. Human beings are at an extremely dangerous point. Only Dafa practitioners are saving the world's people. Once a person believes that Falun Dafa is good and breaks away from the evil CCP, he will be saved."

After he understood what I said, he said that he was willing to quit the CCP and its affiliated organizations. He was very happy and said, "I am saved! I am saved!"

About seven days later the pain in my side disappeared. I quickly recovered after that. From then on, my husband became clear-headed and rational. He stopped saying disrespectful things about Dafa and treated me with respect. He also stopped interfering with my cultivation practice.

It's wonderful and amazing! Ten years of family tribulations and the difficulties encountered in saving my family had been dissolved. I thank compassionate Teacher for this.

Actually, family tribulations and disasters that Dafa practitioners encounter are neither difficult tests nor real disasters, but rather the result of our own karma and attachments. During the process of breaking through all these difficulties, we are maturing in cultivation. In essence, it's not the process of breaking through family tribulations, but rather of breaking through ourselves and breaking away from sentimentality, desires, and lust.

While getting along with our families, we should not try to change them; but rather, we should change ourselves first, let go of the competitive mentality, attachments to lust, fear, impatience, and affection for family members, and rectify our distorted notions and human attachments. As we are becoming purer and more righteous, those unrighteous things will be assimilated and dissolved in our righteous energy field. I think this is a manifestation of the saying "The Buddha-light illuminates everywhere and rectifies all abnormalities" (Zhuan Falun) at a certain level of Fa.

The above is only my personal sharing. If anything is not consistent with Dafa, please point it out compassionately.