(Clearwisdom.net) I am a young woman who started practicing Falun Dafa at the end of 1998 when I was only 15. At that time, I was very emotional, often crying after reading romance novels. After beginning cultivation, I realized that my being so emotional was an attachment. I actually developed a fear of this attachment ruining my cultivation, and resolved not to get married. Looking back now, I was trying to force the issue and making things worse.
After I started working, friends and colleagues would introduce me to male friends, and because I was trying to be considerate of their feelings, I would agree to go out on dates, even though I didn't really want to. I did meet some men that I liked, but never went very far in these relationships out of this fear that I had.
Looking back, I believe that this was probably Teacher's arrangement to help me remove this attachment. Because I couldn't get rid of it quickly, I developed other attachments such as dreaming about what marriage might be like, loneliness, worrying about what others might think of me if I never got married, so on and so forth. All in all, through facing this marriage issue, lots of attachments were exposed. I saw some of them immediately, and some I am coming to understand right now, as I write this article.
I understand now that whether or not you marry is not the key issue. The key is your own mind and how you look at marriage. Is there an attachment of lust? Are you just looking for relief from pressure in society? Are there other hidden attachments that need to be cultivated away?
As we all know, Teacher arranges paths for our cultivation to fit different situations. Since we've come across the issue of marriage, we should handle it correctly, with righteous, proper thoughts. We should cultivate away our attachments with Teacher's Fa as our one and only guide.
Please kindly correct my errors.
March 12, 2010
