(Clearwisdom.net) Cultivation in Falun Dafa is a process of eliminating
attachments to fame, personal interests, and emotions amongst ordinary people,
so that we can elevate to a higher realm. Before I practiced cultivation, I was
very focused on relationships. I had deep attachments to my parents, siblings,
husband, and child. It was very muddled. Love, affection, hatred, and bitterness
were like ropes that tied me down. After I began cultivating, I knew I needed to
let go of these, but I was unable to completely abandon them. Through
continuously studying the Fa, I am gradually stepping forward from humanness. I
would like to share some of my cultivation experiences.
- Letting go of my attachments to my late mother and using compassion to
guide my stepmother towards cultivation
In my family, I was most attached to my mother. I don't know what kind of
predestined relationships we had in the past. Since I was very young, I knew to
take care of my mother and help her with housework. I also chatted with her
often and told her everything that was on my mind. There was nothing we didn't
share. I deeply understood and appreciated how much she suffered for our family.
She was also a cultivator. However, because she was too attached to emotions,
she wasn't able to be diligent in her cultivation in Falun Dafa and neglected Fa
studies, righteous thoughts, and truth-clarification. As a result, she was taken
advantage of by the old forces and passed away two years ago.
Just one month after she passed away, my father remarried. They both wore new
clothes and looked happy. When I thought about my mother going to work in ragged
clothes, my heart was pained. But I reminded myself that I was a cultivator. I
decided not to cry or make a fuss. Instead, I comforted my younger brother and
sister and told them we were not just ordinary people. We needed to have high
requirements for ourselves according to Master's Fa. My father and mother's
predestined relationship in this world was over. It was time for them to part
ways. Everything that has happened was guided by predestined relationships.
My mother suffered all her life. From the perspective of cultivation, it was
a good thing and probably brought her to a better place. Before she left, my son
saw through his celestial eye a carriage decorated with red and purple flowers
flying in the sky. Then we heard sounds from another dimension that resembled a
bird chirping. We also saw a crane flying from southeast to northwest. It
stopped by our house and called three times.
With regard to my stepmother, I just thought that whoever came to our family
had predestined relationships. Therefore my siblings and I needed to demonstrate
the true nature of Dafa disciples. We had to make certain our stepmother didn't
misunderstand Falun Dafa. Therefore, I took care of her in her daily life, as
though she were my biological mother. (Of course, sometimes in my mind there was
still a distinction, and I need to continue cultivating on this.) Later, I
helped her quit the Chinese Communist Party and clarified the facts about Falun
Dafa.
Last winter, she lost her ability to work due to spirit possession of her
body. I talked to her more about Falun Dafa and what Master said about spirit
possession and its dangers. After our discussion, she decided to begin
cultivating as well. Our compassionate Master quickly cleansed her body. Now she
feels light all over and is able to work again. Because of the persecution, I
cannot continue working anymore, and my father had some complaints. As I was
writing this, I realized that I still needed to clarify the facts more deeply
and more thoroughly to him. I still had some disappointment and resentment in my
heart due to the fact that he remarried so quickly after my mother's death.
Sometimes I was cold to him and didn't want to take care of him; I was using
human methods to hide my attachments. I have not been as compassionate as I
should to him. This is something I still need to cultivate on.
My stepmother already had some understanding of the Fa. I encouraged her on
her path of cultivation, telling her that no matter how difficult the
circumstances, she must not be interfered with and must cultivate firmly.
Actually everyone we encounter has predestined relationships with us. We must
not treat them with human attachments. All sentient beings are suffering in a
maze. As Dafa disciples, we are the most fortunate. We can cultivate greater
compassion only when we let go of human emotions.
- Letting go of attachments to our children, taking full responsibility as a
practitioner, and taking care of young practitioners in our families
Due to the persecution, Dafa practitioners' children have endured
misunderstandings, mistreatment, and abuse by ordinary people, just as adult
practitioners did. When Dafa practitioners were forced to leave their homes, the
children had no one to take care of them and suffered from poor nutrition and a
lack of clothes. As a result, when Dafa practitioners return home, it is easy
for them to fall into the trap of emotional attachments. They often give the
children everything they ask for and try to provide the best food and clothes. I
myself have done this, too. Fortunately, Master awoke me just in time. I asked
myself, "What is truly beneficial to the children?" Material wealth
and comfort are only in passing. The best thing we can do for our children is to
help them obtain the Fa and cultivate diligently, so that they can return home
with Master.
Now my son and I study two lectures of Zhuan Falun almost every day.
We also remind each other to be diligent in everything we do. We use Fa
principles to guide each other to let go of human attachments. I also take every
opportunity to lead him to validate the Fa and clarify the facts. Now he has
also started practicing the exercises.
- Letting go of the attachments to my husband and harmonizing my family
Initially, I began practicing Falun Gong because I felt that I was often
emotionally hurt among ordinary people, and that I didn't have any affinity with
anything in the world. Although through cultivation, I gradually eliminated the
degenerate matters in my mind, I still held grudges against my husband. I didn't
really want to take care of any housework. Every day, I just read Dafa books and
hoped to achieve consummation sooner so that I could leave this family. I had
put my responsibility to the family on the opposite side of Dafa cultivation.
Because of that, even though I could treat everyone else kindly, I had extremely
high standards for my husband and wanted him to be perfect. We both struggled,
suffered, and hurt each other. Neither of us felt that the family was
harmonious.
My husband was into gambling. I first started arguing with him, then gave him
the cold shoulder. Then I began ignoring him. Later, I felt the relationship was
hopeless, and decided to distance myself from him. I thought that I had let go
of my emotions. As I studied the Fa and cultivated more, I realized that I was
still within my emotions. He had his own personality and a path that had already
been arranged for him. He was already a good person for having righteous
thoughts about Dafa. What else should I look for?
Isn't this what Master looks for in people in the Fa-rectification? Why
couldn't I treat him with the compassion of a cultivator? The so-called
conflicts and hurt emotions were due to my attachments. Nothing is coincidental
on my path of cultivation. If my heart is moved by something that is not related
to the persecution, it must have touched a deeply rooted attachment of mine and
showed me what I needed to eliminate. In the future, I will not be trapped in
emotions or use human ways to cherish my predestined relationship with my
husband. I should be kind to everyone, let alone the person who has such a
strong predestined relationship with me.
After I gradually let go of my attachments, my husband's attitude changed,
too. I realized that everything around us is created by Dafa practitioners'
minds. I deeply hope that he can return to the path of cultivation. He is able
to understand and follow a lot of the Fa principles, except that he is too lost
among ordinary people. Actually his life is quite painful and pitiful. Master
does not want to leave any practitioner behind. He is worried about us. I should
treat my husband with greater compassion. Now I have taken up all the housework
in my family and am very considerate of him in our daily lives. I calmly help
him correct deviated notions among ordinary people and guide him on the right
path. I hope he can be a genuine disciple of Master's and not miss this
extremely precious opportunity.
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