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Harmonize the Family by Harmonizing Dafa By a practitioner in Heilongjiang Province
(Clearwisdom.net) Some practitioners often regard their efforts in
harmonizing human relationships in society as "yuanrong ordinary
society", "yuanrong the family" or "yuanrong the
relationship of husband and wife" [The Chinese term yuanrong means
"harmonize", "perfect and complete" or "fulfill"
in Dafa books or articles]. They even collected some related articles and
made them into brochures and distributed them. I personally think that using
this term these ways is not proper. Cultivation is a serious matter. "Yuanrong"
is a Dafa term that has incomparable profound meaning. One of them is to
assimilate oneself into Dafa, which manifests the power of Dafa. It also
contains the meanings of different realms and the state Dafa practitioners need
to achieve and comprehend. The term should not be used causally. A practitioner
in the cultivation process can only try to "harmonize Dafa" and not
"harmonize ordinary society". Before one achieves consummation, there
are always some uncertain factors and ordinary notions. The term "harmonize
ordinary society" can cause some practitioners to be trapped in the realm
of ordinary society and cultivate within the trivial contradictions of
non-practitioners. Therefore, they are unable to break through their personal
cultivation limits and to widely save sentient beings. Only Dafa can resolve
everything and save sentient beings. Dafa practitioners in the Fa-rectification period must utilize their wisdom
and abilities to do the three things well. Harmonizing the
relationships with others is part of it. As long as one requires oneself to be a
good person and do better and better, as long as one puts one's heart into doing
the three things and does everything with righteous thoughts and
righteous action, then the environment will gradually be rectified. Although one
may still encounter tribulations, it eventually will turn toward a favorable
direction for practitioners to save sentient beings. You may not even have too
many thoughts. Dafa's boundless wisdom and mighty power restricts everything
that should be rectified, including our family life and ordinary thoughts. It is
just like Master said in Zhuan Falun, "The Buddha-light illuminates
everywhere and rectifies all abnormalities." When a practitioner tries to be a good person, harmonizes the relationship
with others, always thinks of others and is understanding, this is not
"harmonizing ordinary society" but "harmonizing Dafa". If a
practitioner tries to harmonize the family as an ordinary person, it is easy to
be dragged into the small family circle and not be able to get out. One would be
busy running about to please others. To some extent, these efforts may touch
ordinary people. However, an ordinary person's desires and attachments cannot
always be satisfied. Once you cannot satisfy him, conflicts will occur.
Therefore, family relationships are always sometimes good and sometimes bad.
With the notion of harmonizing the family, many practitioners seek ease and
comfort and fear to step forward. Some practitioners worry about disturbing the
family's "peace," and therefore are unable to cultivate nobly and with
dignity. In some forced labor camps, the police also use the term
"harmonizing society" in order to brainwash practitioners. A young practitioner in our local area has been influenced by the notion of
harmonizing the family. She takes over all the housework after work, helps her
child with schoolwork, and tries to satisfy her husband with his hobbies and
attachments. She makes sure that her husband has good food and can get enough
rest, plus she accompanies her husband when he wants to do certain things.
However, he still scolds her whenever he is not satisfied over trivial things.
He even criticized Dafa and Master. Thus, she could only do the three things in
secret. Whenever her husband found out that she was doing Dafa work, he would
scold and beat her. Her husband spent all his spare time in excessive drinking
and gambling. No matter how hard she tried, she has been stuck in such a family
tribulation for over ten years. A senior practitioner used to be a coordinator in our local area. With the
notion of trying to harmonize the family, she took over all the housework and
also took care of the grandson and helped him with his studies. At the same
time, she also took care of her own shop, which is the only financial resource
for the family, because her son and daughter-in-law are both unemployed. Her son
spends the whole day playing Internet games and her daughter-in-law plays
mahjong (a Chinese game) day and night. However, her daughter-in-law would often
blame her whenever she was not satisfied. A Dafa practitioner spends all her
time and money on these idlers and trivial things. Therefore, the term "yuanrong" cannot be used casually. Many
practitioners maybe just borrow this word when they are unable to find other
proper words. One should be more mindful, because it may cause interference for
other practitioners. There are many practitioners who improved their family
relationships through righteous thoughts and righteous actions. Their family
members understood the truth and stopped interfering, and some even became Dafa
practitioners and helped with saving sentient beings. It is not the result of
"harmonizing the family" but the manifestation of "harmonizing
Dafa." A practitioner should enlighten to a higher level in order to
improve the family environment. Treat things with righteous thoughts and
rationality, not with ordinary ways such as love or emotion. It is true
compassion and tolerance that transcends emotions. Then practitioners will have
a stable environment and can do the three things well. As Fa-rectification period Dafa disciples, we are in charge of the different
future universes and we have the mission to assist Master in the Fa-rectification
of this human world. Our splendid future and mighty power cannot be described in
an ordinary language. We have the leading roles in this great, historical play.
The Three Realms have been created for Dafa. All sentient beings in it are here
for the Fa-rectification. Everything and everyone must help to create favorable
conditions for Dafa practitioners in order to save sentient beings. We should
create such an environment. This is the only righteous thought we should have.
Then, how do we perform in society and within our family? Master has described
it in his teachings. Here, let's review some of them. Question: Many fellow cultivators have different views on how we should
perfect and complete the Fa at this human level. Teacher: Perfecting and completing this human level? That's an incorrect
statement. If you haven't done things well, that's a cultivation issue, and it
doesn't involve any issue of "perfecting and completing." ("Teaching the Fa at the 2004 Western U.S. Fa Conference") "To fulfill the Fa, you must first of all be a good person. When
you're being a good person, that is an act of fulfilling the Fa. But since
you're cultivating among everyday people, after all, you need to go still
higher than all of these things. So when you can truly understand the Fa,
cultivate in the Fa, and be an upright and true cultivator, you are fulfilling
the Fa. Which means, you are safeguarding the Fa as well." ("Teaching the Fa at the Conference in Singapore 1998") November 30,. 2007 Posting date: 1/14/2008
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